To the Working Mom (from a SAHM)

To the Working Mom (from a SAHM)


But seriously, mama. Tell me all your secrets.

Because I'm a stay-at-home-mom and I hate that there's so, so much judgement between our worlds. Because I want you to know: I admire you.

I don't know how you do it. All. 

Tell me what keeps you motivated, energized, devoted. Tell me how you are both willing and able to keep up at such a crazymaking pace—while appearing happy and sane. How you have patience left at the end of the day… for toddlers, or unmotivated adolescents. Please divulge how you keep up with project deadlines, pumping for your infant, grocery shopping, your workout schedule, school concerts, baseball games, the neighbor-kid's birthday gift, math homework, dates with your hubby, prayer time, grandparent visits, getting food on table (and in lunchboxes), doctor and dentist and ortho appointments and the stinkin' laundry… somewhere around long days of work? 

Because just in case no one's ever told you this (and I'm sorry if they haven't): you're freaking amazing.  

I'm not sure I could do your job—or so well. 

And I don't care what any other SAHMs might say—I know you are doing what you have to, the way you think best for your family. And even though I do things differently, I believe this is your way of giving, of putting your children’s needs before your own. I know you would stay home if you could. I know you love your precious children. I can't help but admire that—and you. 

I know that you are a good mama, too.

I see your good intentions. The energy you muster up, somehow, to push through. Your unbreakable dedication. Your savvy time-management skills. The way you make the priority juggle-struggle work, and look easy. How you give yourself to and for the good of many people. How you are spread thin, but seem so together. How you never have enough support, but don't complain. The way you sacrifice. The way you quietly try to ignore the mom-shame, the voices of guilt and disapproval from within and without.

Mommies—all mommies—do what we do, out of love, for our babies. 

Points to Ponder + Discuss:

  1. Do you stay-at-home, work (or both)? Why?

  2. Would you prefer to stay-at-home, work (or both). Why?

  3. Have you seen or experienced judgement for your choice to work or stay-at-home?

  4. How can mothers better support each other?

  5. Ponder / discuss the following verse as it relates to this article's topic and our role in the world as Christian and Catholic mothers:

She makes linen garments and sells them;
she delivers girdles to the merchant.
Strength and dignity are her clothing,
and she laughs at the time to come.
She opens her mouth with wisdom,
and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
She looks well to the ways of her household,
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
Her children rise up and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
“Many women have done excellently,
but you surpass them all.”
— Proverbs 31:24-29
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